When I was young and unsure of myself but had raging hormones, I wanted both women and the validation which came from it.

My good relationship with my mother highly influenced my views on women.

Needless to say, that did not go down as well as I wished it would. 😂

So, I then learned about PUAs and Game and started seeing results.

Be careful what you wish for.

As Ross Jeffries said:

"Teaching PUA shills to these chumps is like giving dynamite to children."

And when it blew up in my face (a story for another time)…

The Red Pill was the medicine I took.

It covered the questions I needed answers to to a decent extent. As is pretty customary, I went to the Red Pill Rage phase.

PUA teaches us to embrace women's erratic behaviour to the point of championing it.

"It is amazing, bro; she is giving you shit tests."

Red Pill, even though it is not its original purpose, will tend to foster bitterness within you, especially if your prior view of the world was the polar opposite.

Unlearning can take time—the same thing as Game. We guys will tend to go from one extreme to the next. And I did.

This will translate into your interactions with girls by drawing negative energy and building a negative personality.

If you are in Red Pill Rage, you have to accept it, like a grieving process.

"It is what it is."

But even after you do, one of the most pernicious aspects of it is that it will lower your self-worth to the point that you are just an atomised particle in the world whose value is only based on externally accepted metrics (LMS):

Looks

Money

Status

Therefore, it takes away the YOU, which everyone has—the characteristics that single yourself out. Unlike Game, which focuses on personality that you display beyond the tricks used to display it, Game does not take away the YOU.

With Game, you must feel entitled and convey your previous success covertly in your communication even though you never had it—the fake till-you-make-it mentality.

It can be complicated for people who veer towards the honesty part of the spectrum or very object-driven who need tangible data to feel legitimate to feel as such.

Once you are successful, it will tend to go to your head, as you learned Game out of compensation. If you were a natural, you would never have needed it. You finally caught up to what you thought you were not allowed to get.

This is where Red Pill balances things out. But I overweighted the Red Pill in my internal equation as to what mattered.

Red Pill is the Macro – and PUA is the Micro. The Frame is top-down, whereas the technicals are bottom-up. Both act together. Technicals without Frame is playing the con artist, and technicals naturally fall within the Frame.

Contrary to popular belief, Frame will cost you more poon than help you gain one. This is why a lot of PUAs are still stuck in Blue Pill thinking, misconstruing the lay as the win when they lease Frame to gain the extra notch. However, if you want something long-term Frame is necessary to manage a relationship. Technically, Frame filters out the best girls to fit in your life.

Eventually, without Frame, Game is a tool to help co-dependents (faking up narcissism) find a real narcissist through a double reward mechanism. The PUA will feel validated by cherishing negatively geared behaviour from a woman to prove his skill and feel validated as such, almost to the point of not appreciating the women who organically fall within his real world. Frame in the PUA world is a smokescreen used to get to the lay, but eventually, it is found to be a Potemkin Village. The Narcissist Woman (covert or overt) will feel validated that he jumps through her hoops, playing him like a fiddle whilst he is gaslighting himself that he is in charge.

And this is where he goes crashing out. This situation has two outcomes: he chooses the fight-or-flight solution. The former is trying to look at the weakness behind the whole ideology and looking at the Meta (where the Red Pill helps plug some gap), or flight and double down on what he has been doing as he is stuck in the mentality that getting the lay is the win.

Going back to me, I became much less of a sharp knife with women and always thought the worst out of them from a value judgment perspective.

Whereas PUA was embracing them too much and self-reinforcing their bad behaviour, my interpretation of the RP was undermining them as materialistic opportunists and attention leeches, completely ignoring the feminine energy I previously enjoyed from them. I went from full PUA Game Guy to hardcore RP.

I was getting negative energy from them because I was full of negative energy myself. I was leeching off my own energy bucket whilst manifesting negative energy from my prospect.

In Game, you make it by acquiring key technical skills from your original point of faking it. You learn to become more attractive through personality, which becomes your default state. The technicals on their own are not enough; you need to adopt a specific mindset:

"Don't take things personally".

"She is missing out on the great guy I am".

"Rejection is one step closer to success".

"Outcome Independence and Abundance Mindset".

"Always remain the cool guy no matter the response".

What the Red Pill did to me was actually unlearn these skills, and my default state was turning negative under the pretext that if I did not, I was overlooking female nature otherwise. The RP overemphasises the personal aspect, which Game underemphasises or purposely ignores as it is not conducive to objective positive outcomes. Although it works in the short run, it will eventually blow back in your face once things get serious, as you purposely put blinders on actual realities.

The idea with Game is that Subjective Reality overshadows Objective Reality, which LMS from the RP sees as the Holy Trinity. While there are many wishful thinking PUA sperging on the technical, many RPtards are focusing only on some of the core mantras without any nuance.

"Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks"

"You are not special; it is just your turn."

"Bruffault’s Law”

Like with Game, there is validity to these sayings, but they complement one another rather than work against each other.

Like in relationships, you cannot always be that stoic alpha; you need to display a softer side with the appropriate dosage from a position of strength.

It is a matter of balance, whether it is in Game where you are not the hottest shit because she slept with you (the question should be at what cost?) or with the RP where they cannot seek something from you other than external value props and not YOU as an individual, and not what non-tangible value that you can provide. There is a reason why PUAs tend to often fall within the feminine Frame due to their intangibles skew (personality), and Red Pillers look at the more masculine Frame through their tangibles skew (LMS).

The problem with too many guys is that we will go from one extreme to the next. Don't. Like seduction, it is a matter of arbitrage between attraction and comfort. Too much attraction without the comfort side, and she won't be able to trust you, and too much comfort, and she won't be able to feel that attraction, as the comfort side is undermining it.

The Lesson:

Use Game to drive the interactions with women, but don't forget where you stand through Frame from the Red Pill. When things fall through, use the RP-sponsored detachment to let go easily. Both are tools to be used to meet your goals. Don't fully buy into either of these frameworks, as they have their limits, but they will provide you with enough landmarks to not feel lost.

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