When you start, your interest and passion for one another are above 80%.

As disputes and disagreements impact the relationship, your interests begin to go down gradually.

The end of a relationship does not happen at the below 50% level of your respective interest level.

Generally, guys will break up out of impulsivity when they get annoyed over something in the heat of the moment, and this rate can be as high as 60%.

This is why men return afterwards. Some residual interest and passion remain above the 50% level.

Conversely, women tend to end relationships below the 50% mark, specifically around the 36-38% level. This gap is where she develops the resentment phase.

That phase of resentment usually lasts a few months, if not weeks. She will then begin to subtly exclude you from her life by publicly undermining, being unfaithful or condescendingly speaking to you.

This phase is her insurance policy, and she won’t get back to you.

She will go through stages (below 80% buy-in level) in a relationship even if she started at a yes-girl level (80% + buy-in level). Yes-girls are girls who are highly bought into you from the jump.

It is natural. It is not always rosy from start to finish, even with a yes girl.

Suppose you cannot handle maybe girl’s game (maybe girls were ones for whom you had to display more value for them to be bought into you vs the yes girl, aka she had mid-interest in you from the start). In that case, she will fall faster in the resentment before the dumping zone (50% - 38% buy-in Zone), and it is a matter of weeks or months before the chop (below 38% buy-in zone) if you don’t have the necessary skill because the starting point in the relationship won’t be above 80%. She likes you but not that much; you end up in a relationship with her more due to her circumstances than her genuine desire.

This is not to say the burden of keeping the relationship intact should always be on you. But if you want kids and solidify the structure of the family unit, it is good to keep that in mind. Kids and keeping the family structure intact are heavier burdens a man inflicts on himself besides the providing part, giving the woman more leverage in shifting the burden.

Thus, the principle of shit-testing as a Quality Assurance mechanism on her part to see if you are still up to the task holds much more validity there than before the relationship or the intercourse stage.

The higher the original buy-in level (yes-girl, 80%+), the higher the margin of error compared to a maybe girl (60% to 80%). However, on a long enough timeline that does not seclude you from the ups and downs, you must navigate to keep the relationship going.

But if you put all the burden on the woman, and you want to keep a relationship, this is misguided, as you won’t address the shit-testing, this is not her fault, this is you not taking accountability.

Whether you like it or not, entering a relationship benefits the woman. You are relinquishing your leverage to her, who will gain even more of it as you provide her with children and resources. This means you have more to lose than she does, undermining your position despite the appearance of mutual investment.

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The idea for you as a guy is to keep it as close to the starting point level as possible throughout the relationship.

Is it going to be easy? No

But it is not impossible.

Use that as a guide to know where you both stand in the relationship and see what you can do about it.

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