So, I just met up with an ex-colleague who told me about a guy she had a crush on.

She met him at a work convention in the South of France last year. She flashed onto him. He was married. After the event, they started going for drinks. She knew she liked him, and he did not hide him being taken.

So they decided to go out, and they ended up shagging in a quiet alley in the city late at night.

She could not go back to the hotel room she had because both had to share a room with a colleague.

As both were living in different countries, they already knew it was doomed to fail. Notwithstanding, the guy had a wife.

When I asked why senior people like her, as a Director, did not have a room for themselves, she told me it was part of the convention package…

They kept chatting when both returned to their respective “pied à terre”.

She decided to meet him when he went to Paris for an event, saying she would be around the same time.

She wasn’t supposed to be there, so she spent 500 euros on plane tickets and a hotel just to have dinner with him.

They spent another night together before going back to their respective base.

Contact has dried up after that second encounter.

This year, she attended the same convention, where she saw him again. She had to cross his stand to enjoy his company.

She admitted that she acted like a little child, trying to avoid looking at him and faking that she was on the phone.

Ultimately, she played passive and expected him to make a move. He did not.

They met later at one of the local bars in the evening, but nothing happened this time.

She said he did not try to make things happen. Her reasoning is: “If it did not happen, it was not meant to be”.

She is currently with someone she says she likes. However, THAT guy texted her yesterday saying he would be in her city at the beginning of February, and she confirmed that she would see him regardless of her boyfriend.

HOW WAS GENUINE DESIRE DEMONSTRATED:

1) Logistics did not stop them from having sex the first night.

2) Attraction at first sight. There was no need to build attraction.

3) His having a wife was not an issue, nor was the fact that they did not live in the same country.

4) She flew to see him at her own expense and pretended she was there for work even if she was not.

5) She acted like a little awkward girl towards him a few months after their last encounter, even though she is in her mid-30s.

6) She is willing to potentially cheat on the guy she is seeing for an encounter with no future with this guy

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A girl can say she likes you, but that is not a genuine desire.

You will know she does have it when she moves mountains for you and not when she does not.

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