You will see that there are characteristics that will make you attractive to a specific "type" of woman. They are generally not the ones you want, or at the very least, they used to be but not as much now.

A lot of guys would prefer to get the girls at their youngest. You would think you would need to be full stack to get them, but you don't. Even if you are, you will get played if you only provide utility, not the real value women seek.

In other words, 20x and 30x year-olds respond to different emotional variables and to varying degrees. This is why you don't approach women of different ages with a one-trick pony approach, as what would work with the younger ones will generally backfire with the older ones if you don't calibrate accordingly.

When they are young, they want the rollercoaster ride above everything else; they live for the thrill; it is then hard for someone working his grind with a disciplined approach and routine to vibe with them. They will be categorised as boring by most of the younger girls. And if they are not, it is because they have already pivoted after slutting around.

Why do you think artists, musicians, and entertainers clean up with young broads? They live their passions, have the time to deal with their nonsense, are creative, and generate emotions within them. They are fun. The unreliable character behind most of these guys is the randomness of outcomes, to which they are addicted. They literally prepare them to be emotionally spent by the time they reach their late 20s.

On the other hand, Mr Corporate Office schedules his Outlook Calendars, respects deadlines, and follows an SLA in response time when he does not project manage his life's milestones. All of this is pre-planned character creates boredom in their eyes. This is why there is a hiatus between these guys and these younger girls.

However, they can be attracted to 30+ yo because they show security and reliability.

Depending on how badly her attraction receptors are fried, he will have to ramp up the discomfort and uncertainty factor, but to a much lesser degree than the chaotic 20-year-old.

She is seeking something serious as the single ladies around 30 years old, and even more so after 35 years, are looking to double up (settle) their shrinking chips stack after the antes of elapsed time eat their options before cashing out of the poker table.

The relationship she will sell you will be a utility-driven transaction without the rawness of the feelings she will have shown to her first loves, not only because of her buffers but also because she used to be willing to express her vulnerabilities, thus her feminity to the fullest before the damages from past disappointments.

Now they cope by saying, "I will be feminine for the right masculine man" - translation: "I am fucked out and emotionally ran-through; I need to be mentally drained before having my mouth rammed down". Aka, the masculine baddie. This can also mean I will ration the guy out of what he seeks as long as he pays me one way or another, as I have nothing to show for the previous guys I genuinely gave myself to for free. You will get transactional sex, not validation sex, which can last a certain amount of time but eventually dissipates. The affection will be fake and contrived; you have a stranger in your life in everything but title.

It is hard for you as a man to disentangle yourself from the communication and behaviour mode that brought you to your current situation. At the same time, having a transactional setup that is barely hidden in the deal-making process and in the running of the relationship may sound convenient. It is, but only in the short term.

However, this makes you the most vulnerable to women's scheming and eventually getting rinsed.

Your relationship with your Career will dictate your interactions with women. You must always be serious, and you must think seriously because your livelihood depends on it.

It is hard to have a detachment in your interactions with people as you are purpose-driven; when it is not outcome-dependent, and you value the degree of follow-up, you benefit from the contouring of your everyday job.

A more degenerate lifestyle, such as drug dealing and other activities within the Industry, creates a complete lack of visibility as to the person's calendar, creating uncertainty, irregularity, variety, and randomness in the individual's life, bolstering attraction. This is not to discount the pre-selection, as women are around them most of the time.

I have seen corporate bros do well. Either they have some narcissistic traits, cannot hold down a job for a certain amount of time, or have quite the personality despite being an email warrior. More importantly, they have a story about them.

The drone-like guy will eventually return to the base, which is the work plantation which will define most of his personality.

You would think it is money, but I have seen enough Finance bros eating in their girlfriends'/wives' hands—even one worth 100m+—who were only there for the money and lifestyle.

If the Kaka story did not convince you that your money means jackshit in her actual raw attraction for you. Nothing will.

Chaos is what they respond to, and the more chaotic you can be, an unreadable, anxiety-inducing individual, the more you will make them lose their marbles, and they will go crazy for you. Does that mean you have to dread them actively? No. But you can be ambiguous as to where they stand with you. This will be enough for her to have her mind run wild, invite her to invest further, and have her ego more attached to you.

On the other hand, if you decide that the provider role should be enough, you are mistaken because you segment yourself as a utility. Everything that is only utility-based has high depreciation rates and follows the deflationary downward-sloping curve of an item that does not have brand value.

This is why women will value their designer handbags and shoes more than their provider-only men, despite the handbag being worth less than the money he brings. She would have less of an emotional hang-up dumping him than having her designer handbag stolen.

Why?

Because she identifies with the brand, she feels more emotionally attached to it, bringing her more value.

The same TV she bought for $5k on the reselling market is now worth $2k. But her designer handbag can even be sold for a higher price.

As guys are too focused on the objective value of being providers, they miss out on the emotional, subjective value which makes women choose and keep guys that, on an objective metrics front, makes no sense (Cheaters, Wife Beaters, Assholes).

It is because they draw much more value than just the providing part. What you would categorise as negative moral traits are actually valuable ones to them because if you can behave with them as such, it is because you are pre-selected to act that way, and you can get away with it. This has more value to them than the money factor as a source of attraction.

Yes, you can pay to shag them, but you can also pay to shag a soulless silicone doll (some may argue there is not much difference between modern women and cum robots, but I digress).

If you want to be valued as a guy and not just as a wallet, you need brand value beyond the utility value you provide. A wallet can be exchanged, but a brand is unique.

You can either be the Blackberry or the iPhone.

When women don't need a provider as much as they did in the past, the subjective metric value will have an increased coefficient in their arbitrage.

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