There is this saying, "Not All Women Are Like That" (NAWALT), told by many women to disprove common patterns men are generally good at singling out and sharing among themselves.

The main issue regarding the communication between the genders is that women consider that whatever life they live at THIS POINT IN TIME is who they really are.

Discarding whatever happened in the past as a logical conclusion of who they are now.

To them, it is a patchwork of unrelated episodes within one’s life that is easy to discard. Meanwhile, as men, we will create a structural reading of who she is based on logical deductions.

E.G. for men

1) Hoe phase

2) Repented Hoe

3) Spinster

E.G. for Women

Number 2) becomes her Reality, forgetting 1) because it does not suit her need of the moment, with high odds of ending as 3).

“Why should the past matter?”

It is only natural that we evolve through life and experience.

However, experience is not appreciated in the same way by both genders.

Both men and women appreciate a man with experience.

A woman with experience is not appreciated unless it is for fun only.

When you have dealt with enough women from different walks of life within a specific culture and are interested in learning about their stories as friends or more, you realise their development has been fast-tracked by their exposure and opportunities.

As they say, “we are only humans” to rationalise some behaviours of which they are not necessarily proud after the fact but under which they look to deflect accountability by putting themselves on an equal footing to men. “If men can do it, then I can”. That is usually women who have followed their masculinisation route through their dick-jumping activities, more so than through feminist beliefs. A woman embraces an ideology because it benefits her previous or current life choices or legitimises a future one.

And it is only a natural outcome that they seize the opportunities. Supply creates demand. Whoever they will become after that will vary. Some women will have fun first and try to settle later. Some others will have the monogamy route first and then make up for lost time with a late-bloomer fun phase, seeing their single friends enjoying the different ice cream flavours when she was stuck with the vanilla one. The sequencing of the phases can change, such as the list of countries they want to visit, driven by FOMO or general curiosity.

This is why when she is tired of the streets or needs a nice financial mattress, they can do a 180 from their past, as it is nothing new to her, and she does not feel like she is missing out. Similarly, she does not blink twice after having been in a long-term relationship with a guy to try many different ones, evening things out. My personal experience taught me that there are no easier women to get than the ones coming straight out of a long-term relationship for NSA sex.

Their Operating System is the same. What you see on the surface is on the surface.

Imagine you had various computer brands, but they all had iOS. This is women.

When you meet a woman, she will be part of the spectrum. It will be highly dependent upon her age and her level of exposure. That is why a girl who does not travel from a conservative country, even at 28, will be more likely to be taken seriously than the 22-year-old Western chick coming out of college who has already been to Tulum, Miami, and Dubai. Depending on these variables and the environment where you meet her, you can make valid, educated guesses about what she seeks in the medium to long term.

Many dating apps now are just Clean Up Men Application forms, especially when she is past 28. This is when they are tired of having “fun” and looking for a solid guy.

The short-term will be akin to Bitcoin volatility at best, if not an alt-coin at worst. That same girl on the app on a night out will be totally different in terms of what she seeks. Because she is there to have fun, you can bypass all the hurdles BS she shows in her dating DMs.

So, when women say, “I am not like that”, you must add “RIGHT NOW”.

She was like that in the past, and she is still like that right now, but under the right circumstances.

It is less a matter of you as an individual than what her timeline dictates, what she will do at this point, and the timing and place of your meeting her.

The prim and proper girl you see later on in IG posting about her wholesome life with her husband is the same girl who got railed raw in the men’s toilet a few years back at a Halloween party 20 minutes after meeting a guy. How do I know? I was the Halloween party guy who saw her officialisation with Mr Boy Scout on IG.

Would I have fucked her at a different zone within her spectrum in similar circumstances? Most likely not.

Why? She would not have exposed herself that quickly, let’s say if I had met her on a typical date from a dating app.

Women will try to say these are just bar girls who represent a minority with a high sex drive. Have they never gone to a bar or partied when they were younger?

It underscores the discovery part most girls want to partake in. Why do they like to travel so much?

They are curious about the unknown and love discovering places, including themselves. It is Eve biting the apple.

Women go through phases, and that minority of slags they mention is not a fixed set; it is a transitory segment. She goes through a hoe phase until the hype phases out.

To men - Once a hoe, always a hoe

To women - Once a hoe until tomorrow

NAWALT is a smoke screen, while Reality is eventually a revolving door for the overwhelming majority of women who go through with a Tipp-Ex to wipe out the past to fit the present better, not realising the emotional trail they incur doing so.

And that same woman who had a hoe phase got married will most likely reignite it later, whether married or after the divorce, as part of a re-discovery phase.

Whereas in the past, tradition and shaming curtailed what she communicated as her raw nature and repressed desires, modernity allowed the unravelling so that everyone could appreciate what it was: Chaos and Unruliness with no watchdog to manage it.

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