I had one distressed follower asking me for advice regarding his situation as a “short king,” and I thought that by sharing the following, I could help others in a similar situation.

Disclaimer: I am not one, but I can only have sympathy hearing feedback from women and the marketplace.

This is not a pity party, but a solution-driven approach to maximising your opportunities when it comes to women.

This is based on what I have seen first-hand when it comes to guys who have managed to overcome this handicap in dating.

THE PROBLEM:

Social Media and OLD have made the situation for guys on the lower end of the height spectrum almost untenable.

As women love to parrot what they read, hear, or watch on social media or in the mainstream, what were once considered acceptable heights are suddenly no-go zones.

What happens is that you are suffering from the opposite of the Halo Effect, where positive attributes are assumed of you due to your height. Women will attribute negative qualities to you based on your height.

Meaning you can't afford to make more mistakes in your outer communication.

THE THINGS YOU MUST GIVE UP ON:

Forget about dating apps, especially if you lie on them regarding your height. It is okay to add an extra inch if you are 5'7 "to 5'8", but this won't make a significant difference, really. If you add more, when they see you, they will punish you for lying and assume insecurity over pragmatism. You can’t win.

What it will do for you is create a negative feedback loop, as the slow rate of matches will affect your confidence and perception of reality. If you are in the Western world and smaller than average, you are unlikely to meet the cut-off mark.

On another note, a dating app is a cop-out for learning the game in the field, which can help you develop social skills and adapt on the fly. This is something you will need because, if you do pass the bangable threshold, be sure they will shit-test you hard and you need to pass them with flying colours.

Another thing you will have to forego is the idea that you will be a first choice from the onset. It is a biological need for women to feel protected by a tall and imposing man, and by default, these guys will be at the top of the pecking order.

It is a hard pill to swallow, as it is something many men aspire to be. You will be coming from a position of needing to compensate for that shortcoming.

Having said that, you can overpower tall(er) men once you cross through first impressions. I have been mogged by shorter dudes who displayed more masculine characteristics than I did despite my height. So it is not all lost.

This is a reflection of the reality of the situation.

HOW YOU CAN ADDRESS IT AND MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SITUATION:

The easy way out:

=> Geographical Arbitrage => You move to a different country where you know the average height is low, so women are used to guys within your biological make-up.

It will make your life easier. It is pragmatic.

Consider countries in Asia and South America; you can conduct your research online very quickly. Hopefully, the girls will be your type.

The harder way out:

Muscles and Martial Arts => For what it is worth, it will improve your confidence and inner/outer strength. It is also beneficial for your own sense of worth, as it helps you realise you have much more control over your environment than you may initially think.

Additionally, being short, you have less room for gaining fat; therefore, you mustn't let yourself go, for the sake of your own self-esteem, outside of women altogether.

More importantly, you need to develop a sense of masculinity which goes beyond just the measurement tape. And that comes from a sense of accomplishment. Firstly, with your body, your ability to inflict damage and then with your...

Mindset => Where you must shift away from seeking women as an outcome. Firstly, because it will backfire on you; seeking them repels them towards you, not because you are short, but due to social dynamics.

Secondly, because it is your assuredness of being alone that you will find true solace and strength, which is what they seek to disturb.

Thirdly, because you will see through all the traps, manipulation, and other rubbish they do, where you have to keep your composure or realign her accordingly.

Napoleon is one of the most iconic historical figures. Despite his height, he commanded such a presence that he managed to return to France after being exiled with no army, made the regime his own, and took over the English-supported monarchy to lead the French troops in one final showdown.

If a shortie could instigate a coup d'État, take over a country with a bunch of rebels, make the British Crown sweat over their assumed dominance, what is stopping you from actually taking ownership of your life and caring little for the representations people have of you because of your height?

Your height is not the problem; your mindset is.

Not everyone will vibe with you, and that is fine. It was never meant to be that way. You will have people who do, and that is all you need. It is the same thing with tall guys.

Last but not least.

Money => Where you cannot be a man if you don't have some type of financial independence or autonomy. It is not to buy a girl's love, it is to assert your freedom from constraints that turn men into bitches. It will help you develop leverage in your interactions with other men and can eventually lead to status and influence. It also happens to be a chick magnet.

Essentially, being short is, in the women's superficial view, the antithesis of being a man, so they will tend to disqualify you from the outset.

However, it is all a matter of perception.

First impressions won't work in your favour if you rely only on looks, but there are other ways for you to establish yourself as a man, and your communication of it.

Whereas a tall, good-looking guy may not necessarily need to go through all of the stuff you will have to show, he most likely, unless challenged in his life, has not developed these resilient traits.

The journey to establish yourself will not only be incredible for your self-discovery, but you will also become the fortress you need to navigate this world. What will come out of it will benefit more than just women.

And if you think you won't have women who will love you for who you are, but for what you represent, let me reassure you, it is the same for everyone, including Chad and Tyrone. So, instead of playing on easy mode, you are just playing on hard. But as a video game, when you finish it, you will have a deeper sense of accomplishment and contentment.

The ball is in your court.