I went to have a catch-up with former Tech coworkers at some nice Argentinian restaurant last night, and on the way back, I had an interesting interaction.

It was around midnight and I sat in an empty carriage on the tube, until a 5'3 blonde girl with big boobs came in.

Cute but had the typical Gen Z attire of New Balance shoes and baggy pants. She was about to put on her headphones.

"A bit early to call it a night for you"

"Oh, I have just come back from a date."

"First date?"

"Second date"

"How was it?"

"It was nice. We went to a restaurant"

"Same, I went to an Argentinian steakhouse with my friends, and the steak was actually better than some of the overpriced steaks from well-known chains, though where is the guy? He should be with you on the way back."

"Haha, no, we live in two different parts of the city."

"He gives South West London Boy Vibe"

(She tells me a leafy suburb in that area of London)

I move myself next to her seat.

"Come on, second date, and he has not pulled the trigger yet."

"Haha, no, he is very respectful."

This is where I asked myself if I should go for the more man-to-woman frame chat, or a chill back-and-forth convo. I decided more towards the latter. Did I know the reason why? No, just how I felt in the moment.

"Usually, how long do you wait?"

"4th date. I am now at a stage where I want to develop a deep connection before going physical."

"Because before it was pretty fast."

"Yeah, and I only attracted guys who were not serious."

"And this guy does not?"

"No, and he is also good-looking, which is rare. Usually, the good-looking guys tend to be so entitled and have big egos."

"How old are you?"

"Guess"

"25, 26?"

"No 24"

"I can tell you give me that energy of a serious girlfriend, usually girls at your age they want to party more than they want to find a boyfriend."

"I am not one of them. I had a 5-year relationship before."

"So 18 to 23"

"No 17 to 22"

"And you had fun between 22 until recently"

"Yes"

"And now that the fun is over, you are looking for a decent bloke."

"Yes, that is why I am being very selective before I go on a date and see if the guy is what I am looking for."

"Aren't you afraid that you may lose momentum and miss out on a guy because you did not strike when the iron is hot."

"If it is meant to happen, it will happen; if it is not, it won't, so I am good with it."

"That is fair enough, anyway, this is my station. It was nice speaking to you, and good evening and good luck"

"It was nice, good evening."

Lessons:

Depending on where you pick her up on her journey, you will get a different experience.

She will conduct tests to determine if you meet her current requirements.

So your outcomes are less based on you than on where she is in her life stages.

She had two years of "fun" where she let hot guys hit on her for free, and now she is selecting for guys who meet her relationship criteria, which is having control over the dynamics and eventually the guy.

She filters for naivety, and if he falls for it, she already knows she has a sucker who will follow her plan.

Would she have changed for Alpha, maybe, but it is not even a guarantee, because her agenda is more present.

A girl needs one last traumatic experience to call it quits and seek comfort first.

Her policy on sex will be dictated by that factor first and foremost, and how strong she will hold the line will depend on how raw her last experience, or cluster of experiences, was, less on your ability to make her feel comfortable. Women in these situations will make men of the present pay for the mistakes of the men of the past.

It also goes to show that if she is currently separating connection first (sex after) when looking for a relationship, it is because she has done the opposite in the past. Good indicator that she had a ring of fast casual NSA sex with randos.

Her attire was already quite the anti-seductive outfit, which one can tell she already knew nothing was going to happen that night with him. Personally, if I pay for a meal at a restaurant, I would expect to see a more feminine outfit.

She does not feel the rush and is quite philosophical about it. She will most likely find a guy who meets her criteria and have a relationship with him, as she has good energy and is still young enough to operate in this way.

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